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Designing Your 2026: the simple process I use for end of year reflection (instead of goals)
As we approach the end of another year, you might be feeling that familiar mix of relief, exhaustion, and perhaps a determination that next year is not going to be so ‘stressful’, ‘hectic’, ‘disorganised’ ……. (insert your relevant adjective here).
I don’t know about you but I’ve had one too many times where I’ve set lofty goals which have felt realistic after some time out but swiftly fade into the background once real life starts up again. Besides, goals can sometimes feels restrictive - we all know life is unpredictable and throws us curve balls, leaving goals falling by the wayside.
And for those of us navigating ADHD or recovering from addictive patterns, the new year can feel particularly loaded with expectations and pressure to "get it right this time."
But what if instead of another round of rigid resolutions destined to fizzle out by February, we approached 2026 differently?
What if we took time now to genuinely explore what we want our next year to look and feel like, based on our actual values rather than external ‘shoulds’?
Are you in an abusive relationship - with alcohol?
Ever look at women or men in terrible, toxic relationships and wonder why they don’t just end it?
Or why those who experience abuse from their partner might leave only to return again and again?
It doesn’t make any logical sense. Often, we can look at those situations from the outside and it’s unfathomable to us.
But is it?
Isn’t this similar to what so many of us do in our relationships with alcohol?
The 10 Most Common Reasons ADHD clients tell me they drink
As a therapist and coach who works at the intersection of ADHD and grey area drinking, I hear a lot of the same stories from clients about why alcohol has become such a significant part of their lives.
And for most of them? It’s not about celebration or fun. It’s about relief.
👉🏼A way to get through the day or the ‘witching hour’ when everything feels too much.
👉🏼A coping tool that starts off feeling helpful... but over time becomes another problem to manage on top of everything else.
But here's what I want you to know. This is not a personal failing, it’s your ADHD.
Reflections from seven years alcohol-free!
Reflections from seven years sober/alcohol-free! Here’s what I’ve learnt along the way.
The Connection between ADHD and Alcohol - why it matters
Did you know that up to 43% of people with ADHD will experience an alcohol use disorder? No, neither did I until I got diagnosed in 2022, having struggled with alcohol for decades.
So, as it’s ADHD Awareness Month and Sober October, I thought I’d write about this in case it’s not something that’s come across your radar yet. The link with ADHD and all addictions is huge! 2-4 times more than the general population. And it’s not our fault, it’s the way our brains are wired.
What is grey area drinking?
What is a grey area drinker? And are you one? Accredited grey area drinking coach Faye Lawrence explains all.
Why I go to therapy
None of us have it all worked out. Not your psychiatrist, your Mum, the inflluencer you follow who talks about mental health. We are ALL fallible humans who need support, guidance, help with our 'stuff'. That includes mental health professionals and those in the helping professions. Therapy gives us a way to process our emotions, our struggles, our challenges and to see things from a different and more helpful perspective. It educates us. It gives us more awareness of who we are. Everyone should do it, frankly.