Ponderings on sobriety, ADHD, anxiety & wellbeing
Learnings, podcasts, stories, hacks and useful info for you to tap into!
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Team DSC podcast: addiction, ADHD and acceptance
Faye talks to Roland and Evie of Team DSC on the Disability Done Different podcast about her late diagnosis of ADHD at 48, and what she’s learnt since:
🧠 the overlap with addiction in terms of shame and stigma
🧠 why so many people with ADHD experience addiction of some kind
🧠 why the language we use about things that impact us is so laden and complex
🧠 why late diagnosis can be a tricky one to get your head around
Dry But Wet podcast: Sober Socialising with Faye Lawrence
🎙️"There has to be room for fun and playfulness in sobriety".
Thank you to the wonderful Amy from Dry But Wet for having me on her poddy to chat about my journey from party girl, to out-of-control boozer, through rehab and out the other side and founding Untoxicated, and how to make friends when alcohol isn’t in the mix.
How to talk to Family and Friends about Changing your Drinking Habits
If you’ve made the choice to change the way you drink, or give up alcohol completely, you may struggle with how to navigate certain social situations. These go-to responses will help you feel confident in your decision and have some ideas for what to say when asked why you’re not drinking.
What I’ve learned from 5 years sober.
Here’s what I’ve learnt from 5 years sobriety. Some of the highlights of what I've learned along the way - on recovery, people pleasing and how to stay sober.
10 top tips to surviving a family Christmas alcohol-free
Top ten tips for staying sober at a family Christmas!
How do I know if I have a drinking ‘problem’?
Ever wondered whether you might be an alcoholic or whether you have a drinking problem? Read on to find out more.
Sober Dating and Sober Sex - The Sober Awkward Podcast
It's here! The episode all the single sober souls have been waiting for. Sober Dating! Seeing as Vic and Lucy know nothing about sober dating they have invited on an expert. Faye is the founder of Untoxicated, is a grey area drinking coach and an all-round professional party pooper. She has been on and off the sober dating scene since she gave up booze 4 years ago. Today they discuss everything from their drunken dating pasts, vulnerable sober sex and all the squishy stuff in-between. In this cheeky episode you'll get to find out what it's really like showing up to a date as you, no mask, no crutches. Together Vic and Faye discover that sober dating is about maturity, boundaries, and practice. It really is a case of feeling the awkward and doing it anyway!
How I Quit Alcohol podcast
How I Quit alcohol podcast. Faye and Danni talk cPTSD, alcoholism, socialising without alcohol and trauma.
Social anxiety + alcohol. Partners in crime.
Social anxiety. It's the absolute pits. Despite being an extrovert, natural born show off and a people person I suffered with social anxiety for a looooonnnnggggg time. A paradox, right? Alcohol helped me take the edge off before (and during) socialising. I would always feel extremely anxious about meeting new people or being in big groups. Here’s what I did.
The Destructive Cycle of Addiction: When it’s bad but you still can’t give up.
Sometimes life comes and hits you in the face with a smack because, well, that’s just what life does to check you’re still paying attention.
That’s what happened when I stumbled upon this old, anonymous blog post I wrote in 2015 (below). I wrote it after an alcohol fuelled incident that was so mortifying and shameful that I resolved that it ‘really was it this time’.
And guess what? It wasn’t really it this time.
The fear of socialising without booze.
My next challenge when I got sober was, or so I thought at the time, reinventing myself or at least discovering who I was. I mean, who the hell was I without booze? I had no clue. I’d been a big boozer for three decades, my whole adult life. I didn’t know how to operate in the world without it. It was terrifying.
And, what was I going to do now, socially? Would I be a social pariah? I didn’t want to ditch my old friends as they were my mates, with or without booze. Would they ditch me though, now I could no longer come and party? If I’m honest I avoided non-drinkers like the plague, assumed they were beyond tedious and would never in a million years dream of dating one. And here I was, one of them. Ugh, these were massive concerns of mine.